Dear AdviceLady,
I am appalled by your response to the woman who was dating a younger
man.
"My thoughts? I will not even entertain this discussion.
This is something wise people would not even be in the situation to
give a thought to. Furthermore, two years will make no
difference as the age gap will remain the same. How embarrassing
for both of you that there is a romantic relationship here at
all."
Is it fair to put a
societal age view on love? Please explain. Love does not look at age
it sees only chemistry and compatibility. I am older and involved with
an older man. I have thought long and hard about this relationship and
I have plenty of past relationships that were sore to tell me age has
no bearing. This man treats me better then anyone I have ever known.
He makes me laugh, he makes me happy, and our sex life is amazing. I
understand that he may be older than I and there will always be some
physical differences due to our age, but I can sat that I would take
that on any day over any of the other relationship issues I have
encountered. Why should one lose in love because portions of society
view it as unacceptable? Why would someone who does an advice column
present societal views and not non bias information? In China they
believe that age differences make the magnitude of relationships work.
They promote this. Just as the US promotes shaving their legs when
much of Europe does not. Does not shaving make you wrong? I would be
very curious to hear "your thoughts" on the subject of age.
Please enlighten me.
Sincerely
Saddened by your advice.
Dear Saddened,
If you are 40 and your man is 55, then the
numbers don't matter. You two would be on the same wavelength.
The response I wrote was to a woman in her forties who was seeing a
fellow that was in his early twenties. If you can't see the
problem with that, then I could write 3 pages to you and you would
never be enlightened.
My site is called AdviceLady.com, so people
log on to see what the AdviceLady thinks. If they like my
advice, they return...if they don't like my advice they can log on to
someone else's advice site. Remember, it's free and you get what
you pay for! *smile* Thanks for writing me even though you
don't agree with me. I assure you that you are not alone...and
that's OK with me.
